From Being a Pity to Praise Party Girl

I often refer to the last 3 years of our lives as a family, and how difficult they have been. Worth it?

Yes. I can honestly answer that with a yes. Only because of where I am in relationship not only with my husband, but more important where I am at with Jesus.

At the beginning of the 3 years though, I would crumble at any tension, or negative change in our lives. I was queen of throwing a pity party. It was as if I had an emergency party kit that in a moment’s notice of bad news, I could throw together a gathering like no other.

But 3 years later, and having received some news recently that is life changing for many in our family, I see that I have learned. Sunday night it all hit me and I sat in my driveway in my car and cried. I cried the kind of tears that don’t stop no matter how hard you try to make them. BUT this time instead of trying to decide what I was going to wear to my own pity party, I cried out to God.

All that God has taught me through Lysa TerKeurst when I heard her speak 3 times in the last two years and reading her blog, at that moment, I put her messages into play. Now, not later, I turned a pity party into a praise party.

I began to praise Him in advance for what He is doing and what He is going to do with the circumstances we are facing. I acknowledged that He was not surprised as we were with the news and that He is so much bigger than all of this. And I praised Him for how He will always take what the devil meant for evil and turn to good for His glory. Simply because He says He will.

He is good.

I learned in Renee Swope’s book, A Confident Heart, how to “boss my soul around” and that is exactly what I did the other night. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I praised the God who never lies. I praised the God who tells me in 2 Chronicles 20 that this battle is not mine. It’s HIS.

Psalm 146:1

Praise the LORD. Praise the LORD, O my soul.

Before I wiped my tears and went into the house, I whispered 2 Chronicles 20:12 to Him…For we have no power to face this vast army that is attacking us. We do not know what to do, but our eyes are upon You.

I do not know what to do, BUT no matter what God, my eyes are upon only You.

Are you there?

Are you feeling overwhelmed with something in your life?

My initial reaction to our news a few weeks ago was pure anger and my words were anything but godly, but when reality hit me Sunday, it was God Who I turned to. It was Him that I acknowledged that even in my anger, I had no clue what to do. He didn’t shake a finger at me and tell me how I blew it and should have sought Him from the get go. Instead, He embraced me in my driveway. He let me know…I’ve got this.

I want to encourage you to trust Him with whatever you are facing today and let Him take over. Let Him show you how He is in so much better control than you could ever pretend to be. And let your pity turn into praise. Because as I learned last January….

“In 2 Chronicles 20:21 it says ‘Give thanks to the LORD, for His love endures forever’. Thanksgiving and praise moves the heart of God which allows the hand of God to move.”~Lysa TerKeurst.

Move His heart today girlfriend and watch what He does next.

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21 Responses to From Being a Pity to Praise Party Girl

  1. Sita says:

    I’m learning too, Lelia…time and time again, I read that no matter how much the Israelites strayed, when they cried out to God, He always delivered them. You are right, God knows…what Satan means for destruction, He means for redemption..God holds the trump card…always. That does not mean you do not need the support of the community and I will uphold you and your family.
    You WILL see the fruit of your prayer and it will be more than you imagined, for that is what He has promised. Love you, Lelia.

  2. Thanks for this blog post today. I understand all too well about the pity parties. It seems like it’s taken me a long time, but I’m slowly learning to start praising God & it’s really starting to make a difference. My situation may not change or even go the way I want it to, but when I learn to trust God & know that His ways are better than mine & that He is in control, it does it make it much easier to deal with.
    Thanks again,

    • Yes! He is in control and I have to really let God have my thoughts because otherwise they go off on their own wild goose change. I agree with you, praising God does make a difference. Let’s keep doing it His way! 🙂 Thanks Tiffany!

  3. Overwhelmed but not forsaken. I will live to see another day and to do so with renewed hope in my heart. Love you, friend. Thanks for being there for me today. Call me anytime… try not to sound like a drunk next time:)!


    • Yes Elaine…never forsaken. Thanks for being there for me too and speaking truth into my life. haha…I will try not to drink next time before I call. I figured out with this new phone I can’t put it on my shoulder and multi-task, otherwise I do sound like I’m eating my phone while intoxicated. 🙂 Do wish I could have seen you trying to figure it out the message though. Love you!

    • Sita says:

      “try not to sound like a drunk next time:)!”..LOL!

  4. Karren Reed says:

    I am so thankful that we get to call ourselves “Daughters” of the “King of Kings”, and because of that we get to claim “Victory”. I love it that we can tell satan that he is a loser, and that he doesn’t get to win!!! Thank You Lord that we can “Praise You In The Storm”

  5. This post spoke to me. Thanks for sharing it and for your testimony.

  6. Amy says:

    (((BIG HUGS!))) Thank you!!!

  7. Katy Flood says:

    I love this post Lelia! So honest and so real – exactly where I am right now in my walk with Him. Just trying to say “yes” to Him everyday and not get caught up in all the pity parties I could have. Oh, such good words. Thanks for the encouragment, sister! Love you!

  8. Jill Beran says:

    Great post!! Isn’t it amazing how we listen to speakers and read their books then God gives us plenty of opportunities to apply what we learn!! Wonderful to see you do just that!! Praying for you!!

    • IS amazing! All that I have learned over the last 2 years from Lysa has been so right on, it’s crazy. Thankfully, I’m a good note taker because sometimes it takes me awhile to apply the stuff. 🙂 Thanks for the prayers….I’ll email you.

  9. Jennifer says:

    Great post my friend!! Isn’t it amazing how PRAISE changes our perspective and takes the focus off of ourselves. A lesson I have learned the hard way but God is always faithful…He’s got this!!! Praying for you.

  10. Susan Neverve says:

    I tried to reach “touch” you yesterday at church…but…you weren’t within reach!!
    However…Oh how I am thanking God how the Holy Spirit is working through you…never a day late when I am so encouraged with your authenticity!!

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